Wednesday 2 May 2012

Diapering Choices For Your Super Hero



Poop is a fact in a Super Mom's life (mine especially) so I thought I would just lay out some options for all you mom's out there getting ready to deal with it.

Disposable Diapers 


My beautiful Power Princess wore disposable diapers all thru her baby years and Rainbow Brite did for part of that time.  For those of you considering this route for your own super heros, here is what I learned and the brands I have tried.

Items you may need for success:
  1. Diaper Pail - I used a Diaper Genie because it locked to keep your tiny heros hands out of it and the diapers twisted sausage fashion in the bag with each so it somewhat trapped the smells inside and not in the room.
  2. Wipes - I used whatever brand that was cheapest that day at the store.
  3. Rash Cream- We used Boudreaux's Butt Paste.
  4. Change Pad or Change Table
  5. Disposable Diapers - Lots of them!

Brands I have tried:

Pampers - I loved the smaller size swaddlers because they have this yellow line that changes color when wet.  This was super helpful at the hospital or when you are Breast Feeding for record keeping as disposables are made with super stay dry material so it's hard to tell if the baby is wet by feel and look alone.

Huggies- I never liked the smaller sizes but the size 3 and up were pretty much the same as pampers and where great.

Luvs- I really loved the trimness of these diapers as well as their fresh baby powder smell.  Also the price was awesome!

PC Choice Teddy's Choice and Life Brand Diapers- These diapers are the most inexpensive and are fine for short term wear but not a good choice for overnight or long wear.  Super Dad calls them one pee wonders!

Potential Cost:

Wipes- I picked up whatever brand was the cheapest at the store that day because Super Dad could go thru 30 of them with one poopy diaper, lol!

Disposable Diapers-  The best way to calculate the cost of disposable diapers is to determine the brand you want, how many are in the box and how often you will change your baby in any given day.  

On average, I changed Power Princess for at least the first 6 months of her life 8-12x's a day, 40-60x's a week or 160-240x's a month (hope my math is right) so you can use that to calculate what it might cost you to change your new little hero.

There is also the one time cost of the change pad or table and ongoing costs of the rash cream and pail bags for the Diaper Genie.

Cloth Diapers


I have cloth diapered both Rainbow Brite (part-time) for 1+yrs and Spiderman exclusively for 2+yrs.  I have tried alot of different brands thru the years but I try very hard to support the WAHM's (work at home mom) of the world and steered clear of most of the really big box brands.  I have alot of favorites but some of the ones I have tried did not work for us at all.  To be fair, I am only listing the brands I found to be the most useful by type so I can keep this somewhat short and concise and I don't want to be a critic to a super hard working Mama out there.

Items you may need for success:
  1. Wet bag or pail liner: I use a Ragababe Laundry Bag (holds about 25 diapers with liners and wipes) that I hang on the back of our bathroom door and a Planet Wise wet bag (holds 5 diapers with liners and wipes) for the diaper bag.
  2. Wipes - I use cloth wipes in a wipe warmer and disposable wipes for the diaper bag.  I find when we use cloth wipes, we use less of them (when I write "we" I really mean "Super Dad") when we clean the bum.  I like my Charlie Banana double sided wipes  the best but that is a personal preference.  I keep about 30 wipes for each child in diapers at any given time.  We use them for more than just dirty bums.
  3. Rash Cream- It is VERY important to use cloth diaper safe cream or you will ruin your cloth diapers (I learned this the hard way).  Do not use any petroleum or store bought cream products.  I like Hiney Honey from Scarlet Naturals.  It comes in tins but they will soon be carrying sticks.  I have one tin at home and one in the diaper bag.  I also like their wipe solution in Pearberry scent.
  4. Change Pad or Change Table
  5. Cloth Diaper Safe Detergent - Like store bought creams, do NOT use your regular laundry detergent or any kind of fabric softeners on your cloth diapers.  It will leave build up on your diapers which is difficult to get off, causes leaks, voids warranties and can cause severe wear and tear.  I use Rockin Green Earth Wind and Orchid Remix.
  6. Diaper Sprayer - For an exclusively breastfed (BF) baby (0-6 mos) you do not have to rinse the poop off your diapers as BF poop is water soluble and will wash away in your machine with no residue left behind.
       For formula fed or Babies who have started on baby food- you need    
       to get as much of the poop off that diaper that you can before you 
       launder it in your machine and a sprayer is just an easy way to do it.  
       I bought mine on ebay for 10 bucks 3 years ago from seller Mr. 
       Bidet and it still works like new with heavy use.  Be sure to get a 
       sprayer with metal fittings and not plastic.

Types and Brands (again this is just a brief list of the top ones I have tried, there were alot of others that I like):


Pocket Diaper This diaper is made of an outer waterproof layer and an inner, soft layer sewn together on three sides, with one side left open to form a pocket. You insert the absorbent layer into the pocket. Pocket diapers are not absorbent without the insert. 

KaWaii Mom Label Minky Bamboo:

This diaper is a one size (OS) that fits 8-35lbs. It's super cheap, so is an awesome investment for first time cloth diaper moms. Comes with 2 full size Bamboo inserts with each diaper.  I really liked the trimness and natural fibers.  It is really absorbent and super cute prints too.




I liked this diaper because the sizing snaps are placed in the elastic and hidden as opposed to across the front so it didn't chafe Spiderman's legs when he started crawling.  It comes with a small doubler and a full size micro fiber insert.  These are super absorbent and have bright bold colors.  I also liked the wide elastic across the back for comfort and poop containment.




All In One (AIO) - are, as the name suggests, a one-piece cloth diaper system. AIO diapers work just like disposable diapers, except, of course, they are made of different material and are washed and reused, not thrown out. AIO cloth diapers are extremely easy to use and require no special folding (very super dad and babysitter friendly).


Nana's Bottoms- This is a super duper cheap diaper but I love them alot!
They are completely custom so you can pick the closure (snap or velcro), color of the PUL, color and fabric of liner and type of soaker. They are very sturdy, long lasting and well made. They are a sized diaper so be sure to peak at the size chart before ordering.

I will tell you more about this one below but this is my all time favorite brand of diaper in my entire stash!  Here is a pic of Spiderman's tattoo diaper :)









All In Two (AI2)Quick dry AIO diapers, also known as AI2 diapers, are a variation of the all in one diaper. They are also extremely easy to use, and are more versatile than the standard all in one cloth diaper.

RagaBabe AI2- This diaper is our teflon of cloth diapers. It holds everything like a tank and we have never ever had a leak! That goes for our AIO too. The largest and only con I can think of with these diapers is that they are extremely hard to get your hands on one. I have 6 so far in various sizes and that was with about 6 months of trying to get them new from her site. Joy (the owner of Ragababe) is a WAHM out of Iowa who hasn't been able to keep up with demand yet. I saw one of these diapers (used and damaged) on ebay go for $285.00! Crazy right? But boy oh boy, I really hope mine resell for that when I am done with them :) These are sized diapers so you need to check the sizing chart before ordering one.

These diapers are super cute custom prints and super soft!  They can be ordered in an extra large OS so they are also great for larger babies and toddlers.  We have both of these beauties in our stash and hope to get more for our future super hero.


SquishyButts
Also super cute customs.  They dry really fast and have an extra fabric in the soaker called Zorb which is awesome for big heavy wetters.  Here is a pic of Spiderman in his favorite Thomas The Train diaper in the extra large OS.  He is sweeping the carpet for me and eating a banana at the same time cuz Super Hero's are smart!  These diapers also can be made with custom embroidery.




Fitted and Fitted in 2 (FI2)are the same shape as disposable diapers. No folding is required to put on fitted cloth diapers, but they do require a diaper cover because on their own, fitted diapers have no waterproof layer.

I haven't really loved fitted diapers with covers cuz it seems like a hassle but they can be cost effective and less washing for alot of people. Goodmama has some really cute prints too but I find they are more for a smaller baby.


Wool Covers- very breathable, keeps bums cool and only needs to be washed every few weeks unless they are poopy. They are antibacterial and super absorbers. I have never had a leak with these and are great over a fitted. I have used woolybottoms and they use recycled wool so its more green :) Here is a pic of spiderman in his woolybottoms having fun with dress up.


Now our Rainbow Brite has a few diapers that I referred to as church diapers from cutiepoops.  They were pockets and they are so cute I couldn't leave them out of this post!  They have adorable ruffles on the bum and every baby girl needs some ruffles in her church dress stash :)  

Swim Diapers - made specifically for use in the pool, splash pad or lake. They are not absorbent but are made based on safety to hold poop messes in.


I like the prints from monkey doodles and the convenient snaps for easy poop cleanup.  They are made with PUL which will catch one pee for just a bit which is important for little boys like Spiderman who pee like fountains at the splash pad!  They are sized so be sure to check the size chart.


Cost:

The cost is substantial when you begin to cloth diaper but you can save by buying or trading used or buying local to save on shipping costs. You can also check out youtube and get free tutorials on how to make your own fitteds out of blankets and t-shirts which I did for Spiderman when he was really young. Here is a pic of one I made for him out of Super Dad's work shirt.
You have to remember that when you plan well, the start up costs will not at all exceed what you would have spent using disposable diapers thru your babies diapering years.  In fact, alot of people save money in the long run because when you take care of your diapers, you can re-use them for subsequent children and/or resell them for a large percentage of what you paid for them.  Also, if you decide before baby is born to cloth diaper then you can actually ask for gift cards or register for them for baby showers.

Alot of people have asked me about how many diapers that you need and it really just depends on how often you plan to wash them.  The same rule applies to cloth as I described in disposables.  For example, my little heros started out being changed 8-12x's a day.  So if you only have 12 cloth diapers then you will have to wash them every single day.  I have always tried to have enough diapers so I don't have to wash more then once or twice a week.  It's really up to you and how much you want to put into each day.


That's pretty much all of the info I have for disposable and cloth diapers. Stay tuned for a more in depth post about using and disposing of disposable diapers and using and laundering of cloth diapers.  Please let me know of anything you have tried for diapering.  I am super interested in finding out more about diaper bag brands right now for our newest super hero due in October :)

Have fun,
-SuperMom

Wednesday 1 February 2012

Miscarriage



Sometimes You Are Not Supposed To Be Happy 
in that moment...


   
...and that is ok.



I have a great family.  I know I sound horribly biased but that does not make it any less true.  I am really blessed to have Super Dad love me every day.  I am really blessed to have Power Princess, Rainbow Bright and Spiderman in my life to love, raise and be raised up in this homeschool journey.  Most would say our family is complete and if you had asked me last fall I would have completely agreed.
But several months ago, my husband and I discovered I was pregnant.  Surprise!  It’s difficult to write that with a straight face as I have been married for some time with 3 gorgeous children so I obviously know where babies come from but nevertheless, surprise.  We were shocked and reluctantly excited.  That is when I began to prepare for a new child.  It is when I became a Mother again.  My family was not yet complete.

On December 5th, I woke up and discovered I had been bleeding and hurt alot.  I mean alot ladies!!!  I rushed to the emergency room, leaving my worried husband and three kids at home because I don’t like to expose them to the germs of a hospital. 

When I arrived and was seen by the nurse, I was told gently by the nurse that I needed to wait.  She led me to a curtained room and there I stayed for 8 hours (sadly, there is a shortage of doctors in Canada but that is a blog for another day).  The nurse did her best by checking on me periodically and my pastor and his wife came to pray for me but sadly there was nothing to be done.  I sat in that room for 8 hours and cried.  

The doctor came in that night, when he could see me, and told me that I had a miscarriage sometime earlier that week before and I did not realise it.  I expressed concern as this was my second miscarriage so the Doctor informed me that it was just my body’s way of discontinuing a pregnancy that was chromosomally abnormal and that I could go on to have more children in the future or something like that.  Honestly, I have no idea exactly how he worded it as I was in shock and more sad then I have ever been in my life.   I literally could not stop crying.  My husband and I told the children that night. They (the kids) named the baby Rose so that is what we now call her.   

I felt so lost afterwards and unbelieving that this had happened.  I was afraid to move.  I couldn’t even go to the bathroom, if you want the truth, as it reminded me of it.  I felt that maybe I did something that caused this to happen (drank too much soda, ate too much chocolate, whatever).  Then I got angry because it happened.  I mean, we didn’t even plan to be pregnant with Rose and now this.  I was terribly sad and a bit irrational.  It couldn’t be helped, as I have now learned, as it is part of the grieving process, all normal.

This grieving process has had no time limit and it has been difficult.  I now understand quite a few things through this process that I didn’t know before.  I decided to write this blog to maybe share some of that with you.

Here is what I have learned about miscarriage:
      
      1.     It is not my fault! While I do not agree with how the doctor explained it to me, it is true that whatever will be, will be.  All I can do is praise God thru this storm and know that He understands what I am going through, the club I am now in against my will (women who have had a miscarriage).  There is nothing I could have changed. 

    2.    It is ok to grieve for your loss!  For me, once I found out I was pregnant with any and all of my children, I was a mother.  I was their mother.  That is true of my 3 living children as well as the 2 children I have miscarried.  It doesn’t matter to me if my baby is just a bunch of cells and not a fetus yet, it is my baby.  I have to say that what truly helped me the most is when my kids named Rose.  Their little hearts are so honest and for them it was just something to call the baby and that helped me tremendously with the grieving process.  It gave me something tangible for my sadness as well as helped them articulate what they were feeling.

    3.     You do not have to be made or expect to feel happy again overnight.  This was brought home to me when my friends and family, even strangers, would say to me, “Just focus on the children you have, you are so lucky and blessed.” I understand that it is difficult to know as an outsider of this horrible club what to say in a situation like this.  But having heard it from the people I love, it caused me alot of guilt along with my sadness because I had a hard time “moving on” even though I know they were trying to help. 

It really is ok to be sad in a situation of loss.  There really is no clear way to explain grief except to say that it is difficult and is a process.  I wish for none of it but it is a part of life.  I know this post was heavy and sensitive for some but I can say it has helped me alot to write it.  I hope you understand. 

I am looking forward to the years to come on this journey in life.  I hope to have another child one day, not to replace the ones I lost but to add to our family, grow our love for each other and journey with us on this homeschool adventure!

God bless you all,
Supermom

 "A furious squall came up, and the waves broke over the boat, so that it was nearly swamped. Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, 'Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?' He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, 'Quiet! Be still!' Then the wind died down and it was completely calm." -Mark 4:37-39 (NIV)